"I Don't Need Therapy"
While growing up, people would mention how important it was to see a therapist. They would say "You've been through a lot and seeing a therapist would help". But, like most men my age, I didn't see any reason to because I figured I was fine. I persevered through struggles, like most people do, and moved on. Why would I waste my time on seeing a therapist and have them tell me what I already knew?
A few times I obliged and went to therapy and after a few visits they would tell me theres no reason I needed to be there. They didn't see any major problems but they mentioned that they were there if I needed them. So, my thoughts of not needing therapy were supported.
It wasn't until this year, that I decided to see a therapist because I wanted to. I wasn't having any problems but I figured it would help me grow. I like to think of myself as a growth-minded person, so I went in to it with an open mind.
After my third visit, I realized how important therapy was for me and how much it could have helped over the years. Questions I had about life and about myself were being answered. It gave me someone to talk to about topics that I didn't want to burden my friends and family over. There was an outside party that I could tell everything to and was there to help the best that they could. It was great. It is great.
I call my therapist my "accountability buddy" because that's what she is to me. She helps me keep myself accountable with all the things I want and don't want to do. She reminds me every meeting about what I said previously and she doesn't let me off the hook. We, as people, often rationalize why we do or don't things and having someone who notices that and points it out is priceless.
Whether you think you need a therapist or not, I guarantee that if you go all in, you will benefit from it. As long as you can afford it, why not give it a try? It's currently helping me with my biggest problem, procrastination, which is worth so much to me. That's actually why I'm writing this article. One area that I want to improve on is my writing and that doesn't happen without practice. So, here is the first of many articles to come after beginning therapy.
If you're looking to get into therapy or find an "accountability buddy", call your insurance provider and get a list of local companies that take your insurance. Make sure you look up each company to see which one will best suit your needs then give them a call and see if they have any openings. Goodluck!
Greg is a Grand Rapids, Michigan native with a passion for personal growth.