We all have good friends but how many real friends do we have? The difference to me is that a real friend will call you out when it's needed. A good friend will let you do whatever you want because it's "not their problem". Recently, a real friend of mine called me out on my BS and I couldn't be more grateful.
I was acting out of character and this friend pulled me aside right away. He told me how he felt about my actions and how it didn't align with my character. My first reaction was "Screw You!" but my second reaction was "You're right!". This friend has been with me through thick and thin. We use to push each other to become better basketball players, as kids, and now we are pushing each other to be better men.
I have a big circle of friends but there isn't many that will call me out. However, it goes both ways. If you consider yourself a real friend to someone, it's your responsibility to call them out when necessary. You don't have to be mean about it but instead an honest approach seams to go over well. This doesn't mean you need to nag on them about every little thing. It's the important areas like their career, relationships, health, morals, etc. that warrant this.
To this friend and others that hold me accountable, thank you! A real friend truly cares about you where as a good friend only does to an extent that benefits them. It's hard being a real friend but I challenge you to be one to those you truly care about.
Good luck... hopefully you don't get punched in the face.
Greg is a Grand Rapids, Michigan native with a passion for personal growth.